February 9, 2020

Don’t be S.A.D. during the winter months.

By John

Imagine, if you will, that happiness is a skill. Not a mood or emotion, but a skill that could be practiced. Imagine where you would be, if for ten minutes a day, you realised happiness in whatever it was you were doing right then.

We’ve all heard of someone who has the great job, the great house, holidays all over the place and the perfect life. Yet, they are still not happy. You would agree with me if I said that success does not guarantee happiness. But we strive for success, in the pursuit of happiness.

Let’s flip it over on its head then, and think like those who challenged the archaic idea that the earth was the centre of the universe and everything revolved around it. Let’s say, that happiness causes success. To do that we need to first define what happiness is. I accept that your happiness may not be the same as mine, but as a starter for ten, let’s say happiness is pleasure, engagement and purpose.

Ask yourself, when going about your day, what is it about what I am doing that gives me pleasure, how am I engaged, or what sense of purpose does this give me. If you’re not happy with the answer, do something else until you are. You and you alone are responsible for your happiness. Not someone else. They may share an experience that makes you both happy, but that’s not the same thing.

Practice happiness daily and watch your world change. Practice it like just another pastime that you enjoy. Let me brighten up these dark winter days for you and show you what I mean imagine you are driving windows down, music blasting. Off to the coast for seaside fish and chips with lashings of salt and vinegar. Top off, bucket and spade, throwing skimmers into the sea. Roll on summer. Now that is something to be happy about.